The life of an ordinary woman, who'd been given an extraordinary gift. The Gift of Sight. This is my story and my life.

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Happy Mother’s Day & Thank You

It’s days like today that are harder on me than most. Not just because of my own mother not being with us anymore. But because there are so many questions and variables as to who my Donor was. And it makes it that much harder on me to know that I live in a world of “unknown”.

So, to be on the safe side, being that I’m one that likes to err on the side of caution, I must say…

THANK YOU!

And Happy Mother’s Day to my Donor. I don’t know if you indeed were a Mom. I don’t even know if you were female. But it makes me feel better to say it rather than not.

I can only imagine what you family is feeling and thinking. Especially if there are children that you had to leave behind. I know from my own experience, it’s hard, even all of these years later to not have Mom here to celebrate with me. In time though, I promise, it does get easier for them. Only, the sting will never be completely lost on them. But you are with them, as you are with me, though on two different levels.

Today, and everyday as before and will be in the future, I thank you for your gift. The gift of sight. The gift to enjoy my children and love them as I’m certain you had yours. For that, I am eternally grateful to you, and to your family.

So today, on this Mother’s Day, I shall enjoy my children, even though they have been driving me a bit batty. Because of you, I can enjoy them and watch them with both of my eyes. Thank you.

And Happy Mother’s Day.

“Eye” See The Future

Really, I certainly do! No joke. Because where I’m going, everyone (so to speak, metaphorically) “knows” me, but I don’t know most of them. And this will be a trip to remember, I’m sure, in more ways than one.

In July, I’m taking the Amtrak Train with my three kids (alone) across the country from Virginia to Nevada. That’s a three day ride. My husband is flying out on the third day of our train trip and will be pulling in about eight hours after us coming in via the train.

It’s not the trip out that has me kind of already banging my head on a wall. Or the fact that I know for certain that every security person in ALL the casinos I may roam in to will be requesting my ID and asking if I am over 21. Blame that on my Dad’s genes of holding on to youth for way longer than seems conceptually possible.

It is the fact that everyone that knows Dad, knows me, and in turn knows about my having a transplant. And in affect, I will very likely be stared at, asked questions (even of the obscenely stupid kind), and will be having conversation after conversation of how it feels to have “someone else’s eyeball” (insert the eye-roll here).

No, I don’t mind my father updating friends that I know of in the complex. They too are kind of like an extension of his family and of mine. But gee! I’ll be getting “I have heard A LOT about you” from people at his bank, at the grocery stores that he frequents and whatnot. Makes me a bit jittery just thinking about how many strangers “know” me and of my life.

I’m going across the country to “get away from it all” on vacation. To see friends. To see my Dad and let him have time with his grandchildren. To meet up and reunite with cousins I haven’t seen in over twenty years. To take my kids and husband to see all the sights like Lake Tahoe and Virginia City. To have fun.

But I don’t want to have to re-explain myself and feel like a broken record. Especially to the lady at the teller area of the Bank, or the guy behind the store’s Customer Service Counter. Or even to my father’s doctors (if I happen to go to appointments with him while there). I’m there for enjoyment, not to give a live presentation of my biopic.

Yes, I went through a lot. It was a major ordeal. But it’s over with, and I deal with setbacks as they come, then move on. I don’t want to be placed back to square one with my operation when I go home. It’s one thing for me to explain things or answer questions in regards to close friends and my family. But I wish to not deal with strangers. Not when I’m aiming for a good time, filled with basically being left alone about my new “eyeball”. But going home means facing all of this quite potentially. Because my Dad tells his friends (not just in the neighborhood) at the store, and a few at his banking institution about what happenings are going on with me and the kids. And of course, being the proud Grandpa that he is, he shows the latest pictures he gets (as I can get them to him) to everyone he knows. That’s cool. But I’ll be honest. I’m tired of having my entire life laid out to all of Carson City, Minden and Gardnerville.

Does this make me out to be a bitch? Maybe. Am I getting too “closed off” when it comes to my Dad telling about my life, seeing as I DO blog about many things concerning me, my life and even my family? Maybe. Am I over-analyzing? I bet that’s a yes, but with good reason, I feel. But I think for me, it’s a humongous difference in MY telling of MY life and of MY story, than having my father telling every Tom, Deloris and Jim about my life and of my medical issues as they arise.

FaceBook & Donate Life… What A Team!

So, if you are living under a rock, then you don’t know. But if you are among the above-ground walkers, then you most certainly have heard it through Good Morning America, read it on an internet news site or within your newspaper.

Donate Life and FaceBook are teaming up to bring awareness to the need for people to sign up for Organ Donation.

Mark Zuckerberg has set up your timeline to add in your “Life Events” about becoming an Organ Donor, and to explain why you made the decision to do so. In mine, I already had taken the step of placing in it that I am a Corneal Transplant Recipient, posted the date I had received my Gift of Sight, and why I was in need of a new cornea. So, Mark… um, where’s my royalties for giving you this idea (*smug grin*)?

To learn more about this new addition to the timeline, and more as to why the Co-Founder of the largest Social Networking site in the world on the web had added this, CLICK HERE to read the GMA article.

FINALLY!! Something positive, good, and actually “worthy” of being on a Social Networking site, such as FaceBook has arrived. And with this, I am hoping even more so that “20 Million in 2012” won’t only be a slogan and a dream, but become a reality and even push past that goal’s number. Especially with about 113,000 Americans in dire need of organs and tissues. Not to mention the hundreds of thousands more worldwide.

If more people were to take the time to learn of the REAL facts regarding Donation, to listen to those of us that have received an organ, tissue or even skin or other transplant-able parts, and how our lives and quality of our lives are changed, saved and improved, then imagine the possibility of not needing such long waiting lists, so many people DYING as they await their miracles, or losing limbs or eyes due to awaiting for a match to come along.

If you are not signed up as an Organ Donor, please do so. It costs you nothing. It costs your family nothing. But it gives us recipients all the riches in the world with nothing (other than our children and grandchildren) in comparison. And your gift is truly a “gift that keeps on giving” long after you are gone, and you will live on in others. Get educated on the facts, sign up at Donate Life (link above), and then tell your family, your friends, and even your place of worship that you signed up to be a Hero of Hope.

Am I crazy, stupid, or dare I say it… BOTH?!

As my readers know well by now, I am a recipient of a cornea. And I have been an organ donor since the age of 18. And I am a strong supporter and activist for organ, eye and tissue donation.

And I am about to put myself through something I have not done in over two decades. A run/walk course. A three mile one at that. And this course is all-cement terrain, with two decently steep hills to climb.

Back in the day, I used to run/walk the Examiner Bay To Breaker race. Each year, my time got less and less. But also did my knee’s ability to hit the ground… running. And over the years, the one lung that I have had lifelong problems with, as well as scar tissue under the scar where my trache once used to be, has slowly gotten a bit more medically worse.

Add in the eye, and it’s been one hell of a ride on this thing called “Life”. But you know what? I have loved (mostly) every freaking minute of it! And I have thus far beaten every conceivable odd that was thrust at me. I have done EVERYTHING that doctors have said I’d never do. Even with adding in the fact that I (am at last checkup) at a range of 20/20 vision in an eye that’s been through infection, puncturing, loss of fluid, and now a cataract under my transplant. Miraculous, to say the least. Then again, I’m guessing that I have a right to be a bit biased.

Now, I am going to TRY and defy my own personal limitation. I am taking back to the race course. And for a good cause. And I plan on walking as well as TRY and run (portions of) the course set before us.

On Saturday, April 7th, 2012, my oldest daughter and I are participating in the Point of Honor 5K in Lynchburg, Virginia. The proceeds generated (via registration fees and donations) will go to the Virginia chapter of Donate Life America and to the Virginia chapter of LifeNet. And also other organizations throughout my state to help educate, sign up and bring awareness to organ, eye and tissue donation.

My parents, especially my mom, did everything they could to ensure I lived through what was at the time in 1976, the unsurvivable. No matter what it took. And that carried on after her death.

Now, I am doing everything I can to get my special needs son what he needs, no matter what it takes.

And I am fighting for THOUSANDS of strangers on waiting lists, knowing that MILLIONS more will be on those lists in my lifetime.

I’m fighting to bring awareness to Organ Donation, the need for Heroes to give Hope to people that are in need of the Gift of Life/Sight.

For that, I am willing to put my body through two steep hill climbs and another two and a half miles of walking/running.

If it makes even just ONE person observing the race who has yet to do so, sign up to be a Donor, then it was worth ever sore muscle, achy feet and being out of breath and all the sweat that will be pouring down my face on Saturday morning.

But I must make a confession. It’s hard doing this again. But not physically. Emotionally.

I lost my mom on October 29th, 1989. Exactly twenty years later on October 29th, 2009, I received the Gift of Sight from my beautiful Donor. And to me, it was no coincidence of that happening in the way that it had. I believe my Mom was with me through all of it. Heck, maybe they both watched over me that day as the damaged eye was being repaired. Because they (as was I) were almost 100% certain that the tissue wasn’t going to take, and that when I was wheeled out of surgery, it was without one of my eyes.

So, Saturday, I’m going to walk (and run) for my Donor. I’ll walk for my precious Donor Family. I’ll be walking for Mom. And I’m walking for those waiting patiently for their second chance to see, walk and live.

Wish me luck. Crazy, stupid, or even both, I’m so very glad to be participating in such a wonderful cause, and having fun as I help bring Hope and awareness.